compute_ctl: Use 'fast' shutdown for Postgres termination (#8289)

## Problem

We currently use 'immediate' mode in the most commonly used shutdown
path, when the control plane calls a `compute_ctl` API to terminate
Postgres inside compute without waiting for the actual pod / VM
termination. Yet, 'immediate' shutdown doesn't create a shutdown
checkpoint and ROs have bad times figuring out the list of running xacts
during next start.

## Summary of changes

Use 'fast' mode, which creates a shutdown checkpoint that is important
for ROs to get a list of running xacts faster instead of going through
the CLOG. On the control plane side, we poll this `compute_ctl`
termination API for 10s, it should be enough as we don't really write
any data at checkpoint time. If it times out, we anyway switch to the
slow k8s-based termination.

See https://www.postgresql.org/docs/current/server-shutdown.html for the
list of modes and signals.

The default VM shutdown hook already uses `fast` mode, see [1]

[1]
https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/blob/c9fd8d76937c2031fd4fea1cdf661d6cf4f00dc3/vm-image-spec.yaml#L30-L31

Related to #6211

compute_tools/src/compute.rs

@@ -1386,7 +1386,9 @@ pub fn forward_termination_signal() {
     let pg_pid = PG_PID.load(Ordering::SeqCst);
     if pg_pid != 0 {
         let pg_pid = nix::unistd::Pid::from_raw(pg_pid as i32);
-        // use 'immediate' shutdown (SIGQUIT): https://www.postgresql.org/docs/current/server-shutdown.html
-        kill(pg_pid, Signal::SIGQUIT).ok();
+        // Use 'fast' shutdown (SIGINT) because it also creates a shutdown checkpoint, which is important for
+        // ROs to get a list of running xacts faster instead of going through the CLOG.
+        // See https://www.postgresql.org/docs/current/server-shutdown.html for the list of modes and signals.
+        kill(pg_pid, Signal::SIGINT).ok();
     }
 }