[BUILD] Need fine-grained HAVE_CPP_STDLIB #8477

Job	Run time
Bazel asan config	10m 48s
Bazel noexcept	18m 15s
Bazel nortti	18m 43s
Bazel on MacOS	24m 21s
Bazel	28m 1s
Bazel with async export	26m 11s
Bazel tsan config	28m 32s
Bazel valgrind	22m 16s
Bazel with external abseil	20m 1s
Benchmark	12m 26s
CMake test (with abseil)	6m 14s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, async)	17m 24s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, sync)	17m 33s
CMake do not install test (with otlp-exporter)	21m 7s
CMake gcc 4.8 (with otlp exporter)	13m 28s
CMake gcc 4.8 (without otlp exporter)	5m 39s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, async)	11m 31s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, C++11, async)	12m 48s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, sync)	10m 33s
CMake install test (with abseil)	9m 24s
CMake test (with modern protobuf,grpc and abseil)	28m 5s
CMake msvc (maintainer mode)	11m 27s
CMake test (with opentracing-shim)	7m 33s
CMake test (build shared libraries with otlp-exporter and static gRPC)	26m 43s
CMake test (with otlp-exporter)	20m 52s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter)	6m 32s
CMake C++14 test(GCC)	6m 13s
CMake C++17 test(GCC)	6m 59s
CMake C++20 test(Clang with libc++)	11m 23s
CMake C++20 test(GCC)	17m 37s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter and with async export)	7m 53s
Code coverage	16m 23s
Copyright	11s
DocFX check	1m 10s
Format	16s
markdown-lint	9s
misspell	8s
Plugin -> CMake	3m 2s
CMake -> exporter proto	20m 4s
Bazel Windows	35m 50s
Plugin -> CMake Windows	9m 23s
CMake (With async export) -> exporter proto	23m 58s
CMake -> exporter proto (Build as DLL)	18m 1s
	10h 15m 7s

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