[BUILD] Need fine-grained HAVE_CPP_STDLIB #8501

Job	Run time
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, async)	11m 6s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, async)	17m 20s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, sync)	24m 13s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, C++11, async)	10m 24s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, sync)	11m 26s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter)	7m 44s
CMake test (with abseil)	6m 16s
CMake gcc 4.8 (with otlp exporter)	20m 8s
CMake gcc 4.8 (without otlp exporter)	6m 52s
CMake msvc (maintainer mode)	8m 13s
CMake test (with opentracing-shim)	6m 16s
CMake C++14 test(GCC)	5m 42s
CMake C++17 test(GCC)	8m 0s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter and with async export)	8m 5s
CMake do not install test (with otlp-exporter)	21m 0s
CMake test (with modern protobuf,grpc and abseil)	34m 33s
CMake install test (with abseil)	6m 22s
CMake test (build shared libraries with otlp-exporter and static gRPC)	19m 10s
CMake test (with otlp-exporter)	26m 37s
CMake C++20 test(Clang with libc++)	11m 19s
Bazel asan config	11m 16s
Plugin -> CMake	1m 19s
CMake C++20 test(GCC)	12m 21s
Bazel noexcept	18m 13s
Bazel nortti	19m 49s
Bazel on MacOS	24m 12s
Bazel	20m 3s
Bazel with async export	25m 59s
Bazel tsan config	20m 46s
Bazel valgrind	28m 3s
Bazel with external abseil	24m 12s
Benchmark	15m 55s
Code coverage	13m 20s
Copyright	8s
DocFX check	56s
Format	15s
markdown-lint	8s
misspell	6s
CMake -> exporter proto	17m 45s
Bazel Windows	36m 40s
Plugin -> CMake Windows	14m 19s
CMake (With async export) -> exporter proto	19m 58s
CMake -> exporter proto (Build as DLL)	20m 7s
	10h 16m 36s

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