[BUILD] Need fine-grained HAVE_CPP_STDLIB #8507

Job	Run time
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, C++11, async)	11m 10s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, sync)	10m 44s
CMake test (with abseil)	8m 41s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, async)	24m 17s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, sync)	20m 20s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, async)	11m 18s
CMake msvc (maintainer mode)	10m 59s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter)	6m 46s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter and with async export)	6m 27s
CMake gcc 4.8 (with otlp exporter)	14m 39s
CMake gcc 4.8 (without otlp exporter)	6m 37s
CMake test (with modern protobuf,grpc and abseil)	30m 42s
CMake test (with opentracing-shim)	7m 45s
CMake test (with otlp-exporter)	20m 56s
CMake C++14 test(GCC)	6m 39s
CMake C++20 test(Clang with libc++)	11m 8s
CMake C++17 test(GCC)	6m 48s
CMake C++20 test(GCC)	12m 27s
Bazel asan config	11m 6s
Bazel noexcept	19m 42s
Bazel nortti	18m 41s
Bazel	20m 1s
Bazel on MacOS	27m 5s
Bazel with async export	22m 59s
Bazel tsan config	21m 33s
Bazel valgrind	21m 48s
Bazel with external abseil	24m 16s
Benchmark	12m 37s
CMake do not install test (with otlp-exporter)	25m 15s
CMake install test (with abseil)	6m 10s
CMake test (build shared libraries with otlp-exporter and static gRPC)	19m 51s
Code coverage	15m 30s
Plugin -> CMake	1m 29s
Copyright	10s
DocFX check	1m 21s
Format	22s
markdown-lint	10s
misspell	8s
CMake -> exporter proto	17m 24s
Bazel Windows	42m 18s
Plugin -> CMake Windows	9m 41s
CMake (With async export) -> exporter proto	19m 36s
CMake -> exporter proto (Build as DLL)	19m 13s
	10h 6m 49s

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