[BUILD] Need fine-grained HAVE_CPP_STDLIB #8578

Job	Run time
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, C++11, async)	11m 44s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter)	9m 40s
CMake test (with abseil)	6m 34s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, async)	20m 42s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, sync)	18m 13s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, async)	10m 44s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, sync)	11m 21s
CMake msvc (maintainer mode)	12m 14s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter and with async export)	7m 19s
CMake do not install test (with otlp-exporter)	22m 50s
CMake gcc 4.8 (with otlp exporter)	17m 31s
CMake gcc 4.8 (without otlp exporter)	5m 47s
CMake test (with modern protobuf,grpc and abseil)	30m 14s
CMake test (with opentracing-shim)	6m 34s
CMake test (build shared libraries with otlp-exporter and static gRPC)	22m 15s
CMake test (with otlp-exporter)	20m 11s
CMake C++14 test(GCC)	7m 45s
CMake C++20 test(Clang with libc++)	11m 17s
CMake C++17 test(GCC)	6m 18s
CMake C++20 test(GCC)	12m 25s
Bazel asan config	11m 35s
Bazel nortti	27m 39s
Bazel noexcept	22m 54s
Bazel	20m 3s
Bazel with async export	19m 16s
Bazel valgrind	23m 8s
Bazel with external abseil	20m 39s
CMake install test (with abseil)	6m 5s
Plugin -> CMake	1m 34s
Bazel on MacOS	25m 37s
Bazel tsan config	28m 39s
Benchmark	12m 50s
Code coverage	13m 43s
Copyright	9s
DocFX check	1m 14s
Format	18s
markdown-lint	15s
misspell	4s
CMake -> exporter proto	17m 1s
Bazel Windows	35m 0s
Plugin -> CMake Windows	9m 27s
CMake (With async export) -> exporter proto	19m 34s
CMake -> exporter proto (Build as DLL)	17m 26s
	10h 5m 48s

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