[BUILD] Need fine-grained HAVE_CPP_STDLIB (#2304) #8581

Job	Run time
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, sync)	15m 38s
CMake test (with abseil)	6m 32s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, async)	17m 37s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, sync)	17m 54s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, async)	10m 33s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, C++11, async)	11m 38s
CMake msvc (maintainer mode)	10m 53s
CMake test (with opentracing-shim)	6m 53s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter)	7m 53s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter and with async export)	8m 24s
Bazel	19m 4s
CMake do not install test (with otlp-exporter)	25m 23s
CMake gcc 4.8 (with otlp exporter)	17m 0s
CMake gcc 4.8 (without otlp exporter)	7m 27s
CMake install test (with abseil)	9m 8s
CMake test (build shared libraries with otlp-exporter and static gRPC)	24m 20s
CMake test (with modern protobuf,grpc and abseil)	28m 49s
CMake test (with otlp-exporter)	25m 36s
CMake C++14 test(GCC)	6m 6s
CMake C++17 test(GCC)	6m 51s
CMake C++20 test(Clang with libc++)	15m 20s
CMake C++20 test(GCC)	11m 41s
Plugin -> CMake	1m 4s
Bazel asan config	15m 16s
Bazel noexcept	18m 15s
Bazel nortti	20m 53s
Bazel on MacOS	27m 9s
Bazel with async export	26m 46s
Bazel tsan config	19m 55s
Bazel valgrind	23m 19s
Bazel with external abseil	20m 32s
Copyright	8s
Benchmark	12m 51s
Format	20s
CMake -> exporter proto	17m 58s
Code coverage	16m 17s
markdown-lint	15s
misspell	4s
DocFX check	1m 20s
Bazel Windows	37m 56s
Plugin -> CMake Windows	11m 56s
CMake (With async export) -> exporter proto	18m 52s
CMake -> exporter proto (Build as DLL)	20m 43s
	10h 22m 29s

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