fix: 4.x can't connect to the cluster when first node is non responsive #737

Job	Run time
Full verify (8)	18s
Setup ITs	4s
Build (8)	59s
Unit tests (8)	2m 4s
Cassandra ITs (RELEASE-3.X, 8)	19m 5s
Scylla ITs (ENTERPRISE-RELEASE, 8)	31m 51s
Cassandra ITs (RELEASE-4.X, 8)	20m 46s
Scylla ITs (ENTERPRISE-PRIOR-RELEASE, 8)	29s
Scylla ITs (OSS-RELEASE, 8)	10m 24s
Scylla ITs (OSS-PRIOR-RELEASE, 8)	9m 56s
	1h 35m 56s

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