docs: Update startup.mdx

[Krambed]

Description

Many changes relating to Java Flags

• brucethemoose's guide is outdated, updated to Mukul1127's fork
• More clarification on Aikar's Flags
• Redo Advanced JVM options description
• Rearrangement of java flags

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[ukdaaan]

LG2M TY for the PR